Short people got - some reason

DEAR ABBY: I am married to the most wonderful man in the world. He is my best friend and lover. He is also a dwarf. My problem concerns how to deal with the public. When we are out, people make comments and faces. I am aware of it, but I'm not sure my husband is. When I catch people staring, I give them a dirty look. How should I handle this? I am considered attractive, and people who don't know us well ask why I am with this wonderful man. -OFFENDED IN ORLANDO

DEAR OFFENDED: Maybe what these mean-spirited people are doing is simply over your husband's head. Maybe he's shortsighted when figuring out the long and short of how small people can act when they see people different from them and think it's funny. Or, and this may come as a shock to you, maybe he just doesn't care. And if he doesn't care, you shouldn't care. He's a wonderful man -your best friend, your lover. My advice: don't let the little things bother you so much.

DEAR ABBY: I have been living with "Angelo" for six years. His dog passed away in May. Frankly, I was relieved because the dog had been the main focus in Angelo's life and the cause of many problems and fights. I had considered leaving him over it, but didn't want to give up on the relationship. After the dog's death, things got much better. Angelo and I started going places without the constant "... have to get home to the dog." He started talking about getting another dog, but I told him I was against it. Well, some members of Angelo's family and some of his friends urged him to get another one. They said I'd grow to love it. Last month he took them up on it. He is now entirely focused on the new dog, and I feel betrayed. I told Angelo it was either me or the dog, but the dog is still here. What should I do? -BETRAYED IN WESTCHESTER, PA.

DEAR BETRAYED: If you set a mandate and the dog is still there, then your only play is to leave. See, the reason Angelo has you around is because, like a dog, no matter what he does or how he treats you, you're always there waiting for a bone and a pat on the head.

DEAR ABBY: I got the surprise of my life three years ago when my husband of 28 years asked for a divorce. Not long after the divorce became final, I ran into "Tim," an old high school classmate, and fell head over heels for him. He stays at my house every weekend and is on his own during the week. Last week I used Tim's e-mail account to send an e-mail. When I pulled up the account, I discovered that for the past three years, the man I'm in love with has been seeing five other women! He reminded me that he has been a bachelor for 20 years and has many female acquaintances. He sees nothing wrong with going out with them, and sees one of them once a week. I am extremely uncomfortable knowing that Tim has been seeing other women and wasn't up front with me about it. I was under the impression that we had an exclusive relationship. Are my feelings unreasonable? -SHOCKED IN OHIO

DEAR SHOCKED: You, dumped in a surprise divorce, fell head over heels in love with a lifelong bachelor who can only see you on weekends and you're shocked? No, your feelings aren't unreasonable. You're just stupid and desperate. To Tim, you're just another piece of ass - a game he's been playing all his life - and an easy mark because you're so unstable. Using Tim's account to send an e-mail? Please. You were snooping, and guys like Tim can smell blood in the water from miles away.

DEAR ABBY: At a friend's wedding last weekend, my best friend's husband propositioned me. He said if I ever wanted "something on the side" to give him a call. I was floored. I had always considered him to be a creep, but never thought he would pull something like that. I told him it would never happen, but if I ever considered it, it certainly wouldn't be with my best friend's husband. He said that that's why I was the perfect candidate - because I would never say anything to her. What should I do? I don't want to tell her and have that be the reason she splits up with her husband, but I think she should know her husband is on the prowl. She has two small children with this loser, and although he seems to be a good father, apparently he's a bad husband. -APPALLED IN HUNTINGTON BEACH, CALIF.

DEAR APALLED: If you want her to hate you forever, tell her. See, women are unreasonable. While you think you're doing her a favor by telling her what a creep her husband is, all she'll see is you, the person he wants to fuck, and she'll cut off all lines of communication to make sure that never happens. .

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 18 years - 13 of them unhappily. We have three teenage children. I have filed for divorce twice, but allowed my husband to talk me out of it both times - "for the sake of the kids" and his own emotional health. He has panic attacks and is verbally and emotionally abusive. I want this divorce more than I want to breathe. I feel I deserve some happiness, too. Please help me. My counselor agrees that I need to do this for me, but my husband will use every kind of emotional blackmail at his disposal. Any advice you can give will be greatly appreciated. -MISERABLE IN NORTH CAROLINA

DEAR MISERABLE: I've never understood people who pay for counseling and don't listen to the counselor. Divorce him. CV

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