by Steve Deace

editor@dmcityview.com

Does more sex equal more freedom?

Recent surveys are telling older Americans what so many of you reading this already know: American youths are having more sex than ever before, at a younger age than ever before, with more people than ever before, and in a more variety of ways than ever before. Such as the use of oral sex as a pleasurable form of contraception, for instance.

And why not? If you are nothing more than a cosmic coincidence that evolved here on Earth out of random chance, why not eat, drink and be merry while it lasts? After all, as long as it's with another consenting adult and you use a condom, what does it matter, right?

Well, if that's your view, then how do you explain the following statistics?

- More than 43 million Americans have been killed via abortion since the start of Roe v. Wade. That's more deaths than in all the wars this country has ever fought combined.

- In 2000 alone we aborted 140,000 babies in the second and third trimester. That's more American deaths than the Korean, Vietnam and Gulf wars, and the War on Terror combined.

- Seventy percent of Americans have first-hand knowledge of divorce.

- In 2003, more than 33 percent of all babies were born in this country out of wedlock. In 1960 - despite the fact we were poorer, less educated, far more prejudiced, and contraception wasn't as easily accessible - that number was just 5.3 percent.

- In the black community, 68.5 percent of all babies were born out of wedlock in 2003.

- In the Hispanic community, 45 percent of all babies were born out of wedlock in 2003.

- Pornography will gross at least $57 billion this year, more than every team in MLB, NBA and NFL combined. The average age of a first-time pornography user is 12 years old.

- Child pornography, which is illegal, is a $3 billion industry. That's about half the combined revenue of NBC, CBS and ABC combined.

- About 2,800 teenagers get pregnant each day.

- In 2003, more than 98 percent of men and women who had AIDS contracted HIV either through sexual contact outside the bonds of marriage or illicit drug usage.
I could go on and on and on.

Children born out of wedlock - which I was - are less likely to be as educated and earn as much money as those who are not. Children who are products of divorce are less likely to be as educated or earn as much money as those who are not.

Anecdotally, how about the emotional toll this rampant sexuality takes on the individual? Years later you would be amazed at the men and women I talk to in my church who are still hurting from the way they were either sexually abused or used - depending on whether it was consensual or not - when they were younger. From my own experience, I know the impact pornography has on the way we men look at women, including our wives.

So, tell me then, if more sex equals more freedom, how do you explain these consequences?

I know it's hard to say "no," and I certainly wasn't a virgin on my wedding night, so I am not trying to shame anyone. But I also know that I still reap mentally and emotionally what I have sown for my poor choices years ago.

I didn't have a dad who accepted me, who mentored me to manhood. So I covered that wound with women, either real or imagined. Perhaps you can relate? Or, perhaps you're a young lady who wasn't daddy's princess so you're giving yourself away to males your age who seem to pay you attention?

There is a better way. God created sex and made it pleasurable for a reason. As far as He is concerned, go forth and multiply. Heck, get your mate and enjoy yourselves with mirrors on the ceiling if you want. I have two kids of my own, and they didn't appear via osmosis. My wife and I did the deed - and it was good.

However, God says to keep sex within the boundaries of marriage for a reason. And that's not because He is trying to limit our orgasms, but because He loves us and doesn't want to see those He created for a special purpose destroy themselves.

A wise man named Moses once told a large gathering of people, "I have set before you blessing and curse, life and death. Choose life."

About your sexuality, God is saying the same thing today. Please choose wisely. What may seem like fun and the right thing now may not be later on. And later on always comes. CV

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